The analects of confucius sees duty field: Speaking art
From; Author:Stand originally
" the analects of confucius is textual "Confucius says: "Serve has 3 fault at gentleman: Character do not, calling impetuous; Of advert and not character, calling concealed; Did not see color and character, call blind. Call blind.. " translation "Confucius says: "Accompany gentleman conversation to have 3 kinds of unpremeditated crime: When not was turn for oneself to say, said first, this is impatient; This oneself say finish does not say, this is to miss good opportunity; Do not see people look start to talk blindly conversation, this cries goggle blind. This cries goggle blind.. Have a joke, say a person entertains guests have a meal, first time lackey asks him: "Only one person did not arrive in the guest, can you open place? " he says: "Alas, should come did not come. " passed a little while, lackey asks again: "The guest arrives neat, can you open place? " his answer says: "Alas, what ought not to come is complete came. " result, all guests are displeased. Although be a jest, it is important to also can mirror a conference speech to have many! Had been told, universal applause; Explain difference, can issue 18 hell. Errant the various states, the Confucius of program of administration of go canvassing of special Xiang Guojun, most propbably is alone person when, had pondered over speaking art technically also. So, he summed up 3 criterion: The first, not was turn for oneself to tell told, this is impatient expression; The 2nd, be turn for oneself to tell do not tell however, this is wasteful opportunity; The 3rd, the speech does not see look of the other side, this is goggle blind! The Confucius of tender honest and sincere is used unexpectedly " goggle blind " the person that will criticize a speech not to see look of the other side, visible, confucius values speaking craft very really. Regard modern office field as go-between, might as well also learn to learn Confucius these 3 criterion. Above all, do not be eager to " expression " oneself. No matter you are the interview that joins new company, still accept ranking assign job, or is to enter panel discussion, you should listen first, serious ground listens, listen carefully, let the meaning that oneself understand the other side well and truly, next again specific aim the earth's surface amounts to him. See such circumstance constantly: The leader explains an errand, had not said, employee already ground of think oneself clever thinks all intention that understood a leader, was done instantly, the result is inferior to person meaning of course. Such case often also sees when interview, a question has not asked interview official, to apply for a job person introduced glibly to rise. Be like, interview official wants to ask " the expression during talking about you to be in an university please; The professional result that says you mainly " , before just can saying half, interview person begin to reply, the result does not have the crucial point in answering of course. These are the error that are eager to conveying place to cause. And the consequence that is eager to expression still having another dreariness, that stays easily to the other side namely " the letter does not pass " impression. So, the first proposal with artistic to the speech Confucius is listened attentively to namely. Listen attentively to the meaning of the other side thoroughly, bian Sai listens to take an examination of by the side of, make the sufficient preparation of careful to make a speech, this ability is the business that clever teller should do.
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